🌻 PARENTS: PRECIOUS BLESSINGS IN OUR LIFE🌻

 

 

*🌻 PARENTS: PRECIOUS BLESSINGS IN OUR LIFE🌻*

 

Allaah The Almighty has made our parents the means of giving us life and made them the source of providing us with unparalleled love and a sound upbringing. However, when we grow up, we tend to forget the period of our infancy and childhood and disregard their efforts. What ingratitude can be worse than this?

 

The very least we can do for our parents is to show goodness and kind treatment towards them while they are alive, and supplicate for them, offer charity and other righteous deeds on their behalf after their death.

 

Allaah The Almighty mentions the virtues of being good to one’s parents in conjunction with worshipping Him alone when He Says (what means):

 

 ۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوۤا۟ إِلَّاۤ إِیَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَ ٰ⁠لِدَیۡنِ إِحۡسَـٰنًاۚ إِمَّا یَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَاۤ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَاۤ أُفࣲّ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلࣰا كَرِیمࣰا (23) وَٱخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحۡمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّیَانِی صَغِیرࣰا (24) 

 

[Surah Al-Isrāʾ: 23-24]

 

{“ * And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you are dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: `My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.’“} *

 

(Quran, 17: 23-24)

 

The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention) classified being undutiful to parents as one of the great major sins and mentioned it along with associating partners with Allaah The Almighty in His worship. He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said:

 

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ أَكْبَرُ الْكَبَائِرِ الإِشْرَاكُ بِاللَّهِ، وَعُقُوقُ الْوَالِدَيْنِ، وَشَهَادَةُ الزُّورِ، وَشَهَادَةُ الزُّورِ ـ ثَلاَثًا ـ أَوْ قَوْلُ الزُّورِ ‏"‏‏.‏ فَمَا زَالَ يُكَرِّرُهَا حَتَّى قُلْنَا لَيْتَهُ سَكَتَ‏.‏

 

متفق عليه

 

“Shall I not inform you about the most grievous of the grave sins?” His Companions replied, “Indeed, O Messenger of Allaah!” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “

 

*Associating anything with Allaah (in worship), and disobedience to parents and  (he was reclining at that time, then he sat up and said): (beware of) false testimony or false utterance.* ” He repeated it so many times that his Companions wished that he would become silent.

 

(Al-Bukhaari and Muslim).

 

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ جاء رجل إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال‏:‏ يا رسول الله من أحق الناس بحسن صحابتي‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏ أمك‏"‏ قال‏:‏ ثم من‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏ أمك‏"‏ قال‏:‏ ثم من‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏أمك‏"‏ قال‏:‏ ثم من‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏ أبوك‏"‏

 

‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

 

وفي رواية‏:‏ يارسول الله من أحق بحسن الصحبة‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏ أمك، ثم أمك، ثم أمك، ثم أباك، ثم أدناك أدناك‏"‏‏.‏

 

A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) and asked, “Which of the people is most deserving of my good companionship?” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) replied: “ * It is your mother * .” The man asked, “Who is next?” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) replied: “ *It is your mother* .” The man then asked, “Who is next?” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) replied: “ *It is your mother* .” Then the man asked, “Who is next?” The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) replied: “ * It is your father. * ”

(Al-Bukhaari).

 

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ ثُمَّ رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قِيلَ مَنْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ ‏"‏ مَنْ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ عِنْدَ الْكِبَرِ أَحَدَهُمَا أَوْ كِلَيْهِمَا ثُمَّ لَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

 

رواه مسلم

 

Abu Hurayrah may Allaah be pleased with him narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “ *Let him be humiliated! Let him be humiliated! Let him be humiliated!”* It was asked, “Who, O Messenger of Allaah?” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) replied: “ *He whose parents reach old age, either one or both of them, and who does not enter Paradise (due to not being dutiful to them).* ” (Muslim)

 

Dutifulness to parents is one of the reasons behind the forgiveness of sins. Ibn ‘Umar may Allaah be pleased with them both, said that a man came to the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) and said, “I have committed a great sin, can I repent from it?” The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) asked: “

 

وعن عبد الله بن عمرو بن العاص رضي الله عنهما قال‏:‏ أقبل رجل إلى نبي الله صلى الله عليه وسلم، فقال‏:‏ أبايعك على الهجرة والجهاد أبتغي الأجر من الله تعالى‏.‏ قال‏:‏ ‏"‏فهل لك من والديك أحد حي‏؟‏‏"‏ قال‏:‏ نعم بل كلاهما قال‏:‏ ‏"‏فتبتغي الأجر من الله تعالى‏؟‏‏"‏ قال‏:‏ نعم‏.‏ قال ‏"‏فارجع إلى والديك، فأحسن صحبتهما‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏.‏ وهذا لفظ مسلم‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

 

وفي رواية لهما‏:‏ جاء رجل فاستأذنه في الجهاد فقال ‏"‏أحي والداك‏؟‏ قال‏:‏ نعم، قال‏:‏ ‏"‏ففيهما فجاهد‏"‏‏.‏

 

Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported:

A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) of Allah and said, "I swear allegiance to you for emigration and Jihad, seeking reward from Allah." He (ﷺ) said, "Is any of your parents alive?" He said, "Yes, both of them are alive." He (ﷺ) then asked, "Do you want to seek reward from Allah?" He replied in the affirmative. Thereupon Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Go back to your parents and keep good company with them".

 

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

 

In another narration it is reported that a person came to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and sought his permission to participate in Jihad. The Prophet (ﷺ) asked, "Are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet a(ﷺ) said, "(You should) consider their service as Jihad."

 

‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib may Allaah be pleased with him said, “If there was anything less than this expression (i.e., saying ‘Uff’ to one’s parents) as a form of being undutiful, Allaah would have forbidden that expression.” Allaah The Almighty also mentions gratefulness to Him along with being grateful to one’s parents when He says (what means):

 

 وَوَصَّیۡنَا ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ بِوَ ٰ⁠لِدَیۡهِ حَمَلَتۡهُ أُمُّهُۥ وَهۡنًا عَلَىٰ وَهۡنࣲ وَفِصَـٰلُهُۥ فِی عَامَیۡنِ أَنِ ٱشۡكُرۡ لِی وَلِوَ ٰ⁠لِدَیۡكَ إِلَیَّ ٱلۡمَصِیرُ 

 

[Surah Luqmān: 14]

 

“ *Give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.* ”(Quran, 31: 14)

 

These narrations inspire you to be dutiful to your parents and respect and glorify them. Do not be negligent of the saying of the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ):

 

عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: رضا الله في رضا الوالد وسخط الله في سخط الوالد

صحيح رواه ابن حبان في صحيحه

 

“ *The pleasure of the Lord is in pleasing your parents, and the wrath of the Lord (upon the child) is if he makes them angry.* ” (At-Tabaraani).

 

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